Loss In Its Many Forms: Coping During the Holidays
Grief and loss can be experienced in many forms including death, changes to friendships, infertility, miscarriage, divorce, or moving homes. Grief requires patience and can be especially hard during the holidays. Consider three strategies that may help us this holiday season: present moment awareness, self-compassion, and seeking gratitude.
How to Ease Suffering
While pain is a normal part of life, resistance to pain can contribute to prolonged suffering. We explore signs of resistance and strategies that can help reduce resistance. Softening our efforts to resist can help us let go and turn toward acceptance and greater peace.
Catching Goals
Could the goals of others influence our goals? We explore ‘goal contagion,’ the idea that perceiving someone’s goal-directed behavior can lead us to unconsciously pursue that goal too. We may consider contemplating how this could impact our lives and potentially the lives of others.
Mindful Habit Change
Having a habit we would like to change is a relatable experience. We may have tried any number of things to break this habit, but have perhaps only found temporary (if any) relief. We consider a mindful alternative that can support habit change by observing, pivoting, and knowing our “why.”
How Can Self-Compassion Help Me?
Research has provided support for the power of self-compassion to help improve experiences of depression, anxiety, and shame. But how does self-compassion help? We take a closer look at some suggested mechanisms of change, and one way that we could consider bringing more self-compassion into our days.
The Many Forms of Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day may hold many meanings. Some may be celebrating while others may be grieving. No matter what unique experience we may be having this Mother’s Day, we can take the opportunity to support ourselves exactly as we are today. We consider three holistic approaches to self-care including embracing community, making space for emotion, and practicing gratitude.
Creating Meaningful Relationships
Creating meaningful relationships that add to our happiness and fulfillment in life can be challenging. Anxiety, fear, and self-criticism may stand in the way at times. We explore three general tips that can support cultivating meaningful relationships.
What’s Your Point of View?
Our point of view can make a big difference. If our perspective becomes narrow or fixed, it can contribute to anxiety, a low mood, or difficulty in relationships. We can practice shifting our perspective to be more open and broad. In this week’s blog, we consider how the use of mindfulness, imagery, and a friend’s perspective could help.
Why Can We Be So Mean To Ourselves?
Do you ever feel like you are your harshest critic? You’re not alone if you feel critical and judgmental of yourself sometimes, which may contribute to anxiety or a low mood. We explore how self-compassion can help, including three practices that could support movement in the direction of greater self-love, kindness, and compassion.
What is OCD?
We may hear ‘OCD’ used in everyday language, but what does it mean to be diagnosed with OCD? We take a look at what characterizes OCD and how this can be different from having OCD tendencies. Please note that this blog is intended only for educational purposes. It is not a replacement for medical or therapeutic evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment by a licensed professional.
Finding Balance in the Face of Stress
What does it mean to have a “balanced” reaction to a stressor? We explore what a balanced reaction can look like and how we may move away from commonly unhelpful responses. We consider the usefulness of grounding techniques, comprehensive self-care, and activating the parasympathetic nervous system.
On Valentine’s Day, We can Buy Ourselves Flowers
Regardless of your relationship status, Valentine’s Day can be a day of celebrating you! In the spirit of self-love, we explore holistic ways we can show ourselves some love, including buying ourselves flowers.
Myth: “My Relationship Shouldn’t Have Conflict”
It is a myth that a “good” relationship does not have conflict. To the contrary, conflict is a normal part of a committed romantic relationship. We shift the focus from eliminating conflict to managing conflict, and consider conflict management strategies. *Please note that "conflict" in this blog refers to everyday issues and does not include abuse of any kind.
Learning to Let Go
Holding on tightly to certain thoughts and narratives can cause suffering. Yet, learning to ‘let go’ of these inner experiences can be challenging. We review three strategies that, with practice, may help you let go with more ease.
Managing Money Stress
Money is a common source of stress. We explore factors that may influence how we relate to money, and three strategies that can help us cope with stress: Checking the Mindset, Practicing Generosity, and Planning and Accountability.
The Impact of Stress and How to Rest Better
Our minds and bodies can feel on high alert as we manage the stress of a typical day, which over time can contribute to anxiety, low mood, or disrupted sleep. We explore possible impacts on the nervous system and three strategies that may help improve stress management and encourage rest: catching thoughts, setting boundaries, and practicing sleep hygiene.
Setting Intentions
If we don’t achieve our new years resolutions ‘perfectly,’ we may feel like we have failed. Rather than a resolution, we consider the benefits of setting an intention. We explore three steps that may help you start the new year with intention: mindfulness, meaningful change, and self-compassion.
How Do Boundaries Help?
Setting boundaries can be hard, especially during the holidays or when demands on our time seem ‘extra.’ We consider reasons why setting boundaries can be difficult, and also consider three possible benefits to boundary-setting that may be helpful to keep in mind.
How Our Thoughts Can Impact Behavior
What we think can influence how we feel and behave. Sometimes this cycle of “thoughts-emotions-behaviors” can get caught in an unhelpful loop. We consider three potentially problematic ways that our behavior could be impacted: avoidance, reassurance seeking, and isolation. Could these behaviors, at times, be standing in the way of a more fulfilling life?
Why Our Thoughts Can Hurt
Our thoughts can have us believing that everything they say are true. But that is not true. We consider three “cognitive distortions,” or ways that our thoughts can be unhelpful, which can contribute to difficult emotions and unwanted behavior. We review examples that may help you catch these types of unhelpful thoughts.